Attention teens: It’s your first OB-GYN visit: what to expect (and what not to freak out about)
OK, going to the gynecologist for the first time sounds... weird. Maybe even scary. You might be wondering: Are they going to look at my privates? Am I going to have to talk about sex? Do I have to go with my mom?
Let’s clear some of this up so you know exactly what’s going to happen and what’s not.
So, when do I actually need to go?
Most doctors recommend your first visit to an OB-GYN sometime between ages 13 and 15. Even if nothing is wrong. Even if you’re not sexually active. Even if the only thing you know about periods is that they’re annoying.
For clarification: An OB (obstetrician) is a doctor who helps people during pregnancy and childbirth, while a GYN (gynecologist) focuses on reproductive health, like periods, birth control and anything going on “down there,” even if you’re not pregnant or planning to be. Most doctors are trained in both, so they’re called OB-GYNs.
The first visit is usually just a conversation. No big exams, no pain, no embarrassment. It’s a chance to ask questions, get answers and start building a relationship with a doctor who understands stuff your regular doctor might not focus on. “Most first visits don’t involve an exam at all,” says Dr. Terah Holland, an OB-GYN at SIU Medicine. “We usually just talk and answer questions, so you can leave feeling more comfortable and informed.”
Will I have to take my clothes off?
Here’s the good news: probably not.
Unless you’re having specific problems — like pain, unusual discharge or other concerns — you won’t need a pelvic exam at your first visit. And, depending on your health and sexual activity, you might not have to for a few visits. “If an exam is ever needed, we explain everything step by step and make sure you’re comfortable,” Dr. Holland says. “Nothing happens without your permission.”
The doctor might check your height, weight and blood pressure, and may ask about your period, your health history and if you’ve ever had sex. But again, it’s mostly a conversation. If a physical exam is needed, they’ll explain everything first and ask for your permission. You can always say if you’re uncomfortable or have questions.
Why should I go if I feel fine?
Great question. Here’s why it’s still a good idea:
- You’ll get accurate info about your body, periods and hormones (not just TikTok guesses).
- You can ask any questions, even the ones you’d never ask your mom or friends.
- If you do have a problem later (painful periods, weird symptoms, questions about birth control), you’ll already know a trusted doctor to talk to.
Also, your doctor will keep things private. They’ll only share something with a parent if it’s a serious safety issue. These doctors have heard and seen it all, so your questions won’t shock them.
What if I don't want to go with a parent?
Totally valid. You can tell your parent and the nurse or doctor if you’d prefer some privacy or ask to go into the room alone. Doctors are used to that, and your comfort matters. Some teens go with a trusted aunt, older sister or even alone (depending on your age and state laws).
You’re allowed to have boundaries. This appointment is about you and your body, not anyone else.
TL;DR?
- First OB-GYN visit = usually between ages 13 and 15
- It’s mostly a conversation — no exam unless there’s a problem
- You don’t have to talk about sex if you don’t want to
- Everything is private unless your safety is at risk
- It’s a chance to ask real questions and get honest answers
Bottom line: Taking care of your health doesn’t have to be scary. You deserve to feel confident, informed and in control of your own body. Going to the OB-GYN is just one way to do that, and trust us, they’ve seen everything. You’re not going to weird them out. “It’s completely normal to feel nervous,” Dr. Holland says. “But our job is to make you feel safe, respected and heard at every visit.”
Still nervous? That’s normal. Bring questions. Bring a friend. You’ve got this.
Find a great partner in your health care with SIU Medicine’s OB-GYNs. They’re here for you for every question and situation. Call 217.545.8000 to schedule an appointment today.
